Work post DD

[Reets]

Has anyone felt really trapped in their job because they were lucky to keep it? I feel like I am conditioned and too scared to look elsewhere because of the checks. I also feel my boss can use it as ammunition to keep ‘an eye on me’ which feels quite threatening.

I am getting quite paranoid that lots of people ‘know’ and ‘talked about’. I recently failed an interview selection process and I’m a bit suspicious someone on my panel ’knew’. Obviously I’m really grateful I didn’t lose my job but also feel like my ‘career’ is tarnished.

I am in a specialist role in an area which is well paid in other companies but like I say DBS check terrifies me having to admit it. Or maybe I could go freelance but I wouldn’t know where to start.
This is waking me up about 4am every morning atm so would love some constructive feedback.

I know I’ve done wrong but it seems to be haunting me at this stage in my life. Thanks

 

[Battybird72]

Unfortunately, one of the downsides of DD is the feeling of paranoia when with other people that react negatively to you. I have it occasionally at work, when people are usually jolly with their greeting then just suddenly walk past with their head down. That’s when I think “this is it, they know about my conviction!” I’m pretty certain they DON’T know because there would have been at least one person who would have confronted me at some point. It usually turns out that the person who walks past me is having a bad day and that’s it but it still doesn’t stop the paranoia.

There are several opportunities coming up at work later this year for me to advance in my career. However, having an enhanced DBS I worry constantly that this will work against me and that I really haven’t got the courage to face a panel who challenge me on it. However, I don’t NEED to have advance in my career as I’m in my later stages of working life and can survive with what I earn, and I enjoy the job I do.

I do have to also say that I changed job whilst going through my ban and had to have a personal interview with the top manager when the DBS flagged up my DD. The shame I felt was dragged back to the surface but I was brutally honest and I got the job! I would say pursue any job that you want to do. It’s a challenging time getting a job/promoted and IF they know of your DD conviction and use that against you, would you want to work with people who judge you that way? Keep your head held high. You’ve done your time, try not to think “everyone knows” (easy to say, I think it every day) and one day you will get that job you aspire to. Good luck.

 

[topchippyles]

Has anyone felt really trapped in their job because they were lucky to keep it? I feel like I am conditioned and too scared to look elsewhere because of the checks. I also feel my boss can use it as ammunition to keep ‘an eye on me’ which feels quite threatening.

I am getting quite paranoid that lots of people ‘know’ and ‘talked about’. I recently failed an interview selection process and I’m a bit suspicious someone on my panel ’knew’. Obviously I’m really grateful I didn’t lose my job but also feel like my ‘career’ is tarnished.

I am in a specialist role in an area which is well paid in other companies but like I say DBS check terrifies me having to admit it. Or maybe I could go freelance but I wouldn’t know where to start.
This is waking me up about 4am every morning atm so would love some constructive feedback.

I know I’ve done wrong but it seems to be haunting me at this stage in my life. Thanks

Everybody feels like you do at times it could be umpteen different situations apart from a DD conviction.

 

[Guygibson]

Has anyone felt really trapped in their job because they were lucky to keep it? I feel like I am conditioned and too scared to look elsewhere because of the checks. I also feel my boss can use it as ammunition to keep ‘an eye on me’ which feels quite threatening.

I am getting quite paranoid that lots of people ‘know’ and ‘talked about’. I recently failed an interview selection process and I’m a bit suspicious someone on my panel ’knew’. Obviously I’m really grateful I didn’t lose my job but also feel like my ‘career’ is tarnished.

I am in a specialist role in an area which is well paid in other companies but like I say DBS check terrifies me having to admit it. Or maybe I could go freelance but I wouldn’t know where to start.
This is waking me up about 4am every morning atm so would love some constructive feedback.

I know I’ve done wrong but it seems to be haunting me at this stage in my life. Thanks

I feel abit embarrassed by it when going for interviews, but apart from that I really don't care what people think because 90% I would say have done it but not been caught

 

[RemorseNI]

I feel exactly the same- don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for my job and they have been so understanding and non judgmental about the whole ordeal, but I would dread bringing if up for future job interviews whilst it remains unspent.

I've been working for my current employer for the last 4 years, but I feel that I'm somewhat anchored there now because of everything-

Yet another shortfall faced because of what has happened- just like a jukebox- the hits keep on coming!

 

[Reets]

Thank you so much for replies.

Can anyone tell me what happens with the DBS check?

 

[MaryM123]

7 years on I still feel so embarrassed. My manager couldn’t be more lovely and understanding about it - we had to discuss it because I was made to undergo a new dbs check. She didn’t know me 7 years ago, we have such a great relationship and I hate that I've had to share this side of me with her

 

[jamesbrown1]

Thankfully, I find most people are realistic enough to know that everyone makes mistakes and they are aware that they have almost certainly driven while above the legal limit. In fact one of my colleagues was banned a few years before I was, he actually drove into the back of a police car and apparently even the arresting officers were struggling not to see the slightly comical aspect. No one judged him or me, but we are fortunate enough not to work in an industry that requires dbs checks. The main thing is serve your time and move on, ignore any negativity and just don't do it again

 

[DC77]

Luckily I kept my job. I am not required to drive for it, and it is within walking/biking distance of my home. I know I’m very fortunate and many others are not so lucky, and have had big issues with work post conviction.

I have however felt ‘trapped’ in it due to the fact that I have increasingly wanted to move on but I felt couldn’t look for other work as travelling was obviously a major issue which was very restrictive on what/where I could consider.

I now have my license back and will be able to see what else is out there. I have served my ban, done the course, jumped through the medical hoops and I will just have to deal with any awkward questions as the arise.